Wednesday, February 4, 2009

A flash of epiphany………

Another dry spell and here I’m, back again. I have again been ignoring my blog for some time. That’s because there are literally many things that are keeping me busy…I’ve also been doing a lot of thinking lately, a little paranoid at times and few epiphanies have dawned upon me. You might have an apprehension that this post is going to get too philosophical but relax, we’ll be reflecting on the mundane only. By the way, talking about philosophy, here’s an FYI….
We already have an answer to the ‘Ultimate Question’ of life, universe & everything. The answer is “42”. Unfortunately, The Ultimate Question itself is unknown ;)
Coming back to the point, 2008 has been a chaotic year. A wave of turbulence has steered the course of my life from being ecstatic to heavily tumultuous over the past one year. Life changed too fast. I embraced it. There, I had barely started feeling like a woman, enjoying the sudden shower of responsibilities and looking forward to a bright future. Suddenly, all the ‘single’ things were getting lost in oblivion. I had matured from the ‘Do you mind if I have your no.’ type conversations (and the numerous speculations which came with them),the spicy gossips to a laidback, a little aloof and a little more content life. And suddenly, life took a blizzard turn leaving me almost shattered. Looking back over the last one year in retrospection, there are few things primarily that I would like to mention.
  • Life is not fair(and I’m getting used to it)
  • What you see is what you get. We should accept people in our life as they are.
  • We all are used to living in our shells. We have our comfort zones comprising of family, friends, GFs, BFs etc. Relationships gradually become so crucial in our life that we start living for them. However, amidst everything, there’s one thing that we should never forget, to love ourselves, to live for ourselves.
Warning: Be careful to keep the ‘self’ away from the devil named ego.

  • We all aspire big things in life. Dreams like a promotion, a big car, a house by the age of 30, a perfect relationship seem to become the very purpose of our existence. However, these big things can and usually do go wrong. It’s very important then to find joys in small little things in life. Your job and your loved ones undoubtedly remain your prime focus but it’s equally important to find out and do things that you love. Look for things that make you passionate and fill your heart with a child like contentment. For once, do things without being concerned about their outcomes. It could be reading a nice book, tuning in to your favorite rhythm, to probably getting a spa at your favorite parlor. But Do, Love and pamper yourself :)
I have been doing a lot of ‘pampering myself’ lately and plan to continue with it. 2009 has few exciting things in basket. I generally don’t keep resolutions, but there are certain things that I’ve always wanted to do. This is the time to embark. I gradually plan to take things, one by one.
  • Dancing tops the list.  I had always wanted to learn it formally and I’m totally on it. My jazz classes are going in full swing & I’m loooooving it.
  • Sketching is next. I hope to start soon
  • There’s one new thing that I’ve included in my wish list-Travel. The plan is to visit a new place every year. Let’s hope, this year, I do it soon.
One more thing which is getting the most of me lately is a television series ‘How I met your mother’- a light, humorous and totally engrossing take on relationships. For anyone & everyone reading this, do watch it. You’ll find it LEGEN-wait for it-DARY;)
I have my fingers crossed and I’m really looking forward to 2009. I hope not many things go wrong this year. Anyhow, I’m quite optimistic that even if they do, I’ll have strength to handle….ahhhh…still…how I wish God would be a little more kind:)


Impressions said...

Great Yachu!!
I am completely in sync with what you say...especially the existence of relationships in our lives ..and the way we start living for them....

More to add :
As kids we never planned for our life and tried to fulfill just the nearest possible goal in life...and we succeeded...and became ecstatic and everything used to be fine in our lives...but then as god went on granting us our wishes we started increasing our expectations and as we grew in our lives... we started deciding for ourselves and taking control of our lives... forgetting that God has a superior influence and plan for us... we are just puppets and he has a better and bigger plan for us which we should not forget..
Just have faith in God... he has sent us for some purpose which we all shall dutifully fulfill and besides keep things perfect for ourselves as well...

shubhi said...

Yachu, wish u what u want in this new year

Shona said...

Good one, dear.

I completely agree with your take on relationships and being, ahem.. a slave of our expectation from people around us...

For "me" happiness, I am planning to read more and write more this year. So far I am not too far away from the goals I set for myself in this area. Let's see where 2009 takes me on my voyage...

Here's wishing you all the best in Dancing, Sketching, Travelling... and above all in simply being "yourself"....

Hanged_Installer said...

Hey..May you achieve all the "LEGEN" wait for it "DARY" things that are awaiting in your life and continue to follow your dreams because they are "AWESUM"..

I wish there was something like Maclerence bar in here too and our own booth....Wait a second, thats a gr8 idea..will plan to open something like that..

U knw what , sometimes i feel you are one of the characters just flewing out of "HIMYM" , always standing by your closed ones , making them happy..its so much fun to be around you..

So lucky are the people who call you Best fren..

Amit Sharma said...

Finally here comes a comment..."Thanks for everything"

Sue said...

Hi Yachu,

I picked your link up off 'Clever Girl goes Blog''s site. I did leave a note for you there, but I'm not sure that you'll pick it up. I just wanted to say that you're not alone in your heartache. I lost my husband in 2004 - he drowned in a scuba diving accident and was just 26 at the time. We'd been married for just over 3 years, had been dating for 10 and our beautiful son, Jake, was 6 weeks old at the time. I can say with full understanding, that it's not easy picking up the pieces of your life and it's really not easy starting over again. While we're all different, you need to do things at your own pace. Don't feel pressurized into rushing into relationships - it's been nearly 5 years for me and I'm only just starting to feel like starting over again now! Like I said though, we are all different and things might move quicker for you. So, I hope you don't mind me stopping by from time to time, like I said, it's nice to 'know' people in similar situations.

I hope that this year is as you wish it to be!!

Kind regards,

Yachna said...

@Sue: hey...this is really sweet & considerate of you... & you're right..its nice knowing ppl in similar situations...i would love you stopping by here.... Thanks & Take care :)

Sue said...

Hi Yachna,

Thanks for the note, will definitely be stopping past from time to time. Just wanted to let you know that The Delicious Divas is not my primary blog... you can visit me on Enjoy your weekend!


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